Online Dating Advice - Your Profile

If you have good game, maybe.

Dating on the internet is like applying for a job. Your dating personal is much like a resume. In this article we will discuss online dating and how to use dating personals to provide precise information about who your are and what you are looking for.

Dating on the internet is like applying for a job. Your dating personal is much like a resume. In this article we will discuss online dating and how to use dating personals to provide precise information about who you are and what you are looking for.

Channel your inner alpha male. Here is the deal, many dating sites contain thousands and thousands of members. These are people who do not want to go to bars and take their chances finding a partner. Many of them are lonely and looking for companionship. Still others are professionals who are to busy to play the dating game.

So they join a dating service and go online looking for people to date. What do you do to get noticed?

1. Your dating personal is a profile about you. Unlike people who strengthen their resume to enhance their chances of getting a job, you owe it to your potential dating partners and yourself to be honest. If you stated that you have a lot to offer someone they need to know what you listed about yourself is the truth.

2. Spend as much time as you need to think about everything good about yourself that you can come up with. It all starts with a headline that catches the attention of a potential dating partner and draws them into your profile. You can do this without being corny. Headlines such as are you looking for a soul mate might be a little deep for someone browsing. My personal favorite was "Runs With Scissors", it suggests an edginess and a sense of humor.

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3. You see dating personals in the newspaper and in a magazine. Reading those personals can give you an idea on how to write a good one yourself. Being interesting will help make a person want to get to know you. Keep it light, not too many personal details and please, no drama or bashing your former dating life/ exes. Inject some humor and happiness.

4. We talked about being honest, but you should also be factual. Stating facts take the emotion out of writing a personal which is good. If you have climbed Mount Everest by all means let everyone know. These are the type of things that can help you stand out. Keep your profile as unique as you are - here is one I used back in the day:

"You found me. Here I am, just testing the waters to see who is out there. I really enjoy meeting people in the real world but am giving online a try. I'd like to find that beautiful type of relationship where life can be shared on a deeper level. I’m looking for someone who is genuine, intelligent and has a good sense of humor - being genuine is very important for me. An ideal long-term relationship is easy to maintain, involves lively discussions, engages our friends and family around us, contains laughter and a mutual pursuit of our passions.

I am smart, fun, authentic, affectionate, and love to try new things. You could say that I am a true "man's man", with my priorities in order and I know how to treat a lady. I balance professionalism and fun in all of life's adventures. I work hard and am very close with my family and friends.

At work I'm creative and driven. I've founded my own business and have ideas for a few more. I get to do many creative things, and love every second of it. Few things are more rewarding then bringing your own idea to life.

I'm always up for trying new things and rarely afraid to take risks in life. In fact, I thrive on it. 

A perfect night for me is getting my family together and cooking a nice dinner for everyone. I try to always remain positive and be in a good mood. I like to go out and have a good meal over stimulating conversation. In terms of going on dates, I am not very hard to please. As long as I am spending quality time with my significant other, I am a happy guy. I believe in karma and that you should always treat others how you would like to be treated. 

I am looking for a a woman who is fun loving and spontaneous. Some other characteristics I am looking for include: independence, sense of humor, career driven and trustworthy. 

I've  traveled many places and, while I don't travel as much now, I will for the right person. Do you love to travel too?

Write me if you have any level of interest... Let's see where it goes. I love a woman who initiates."

Online Dating Advice Your Profile

Most people are a bit hesitant to post personals or meet someone who has advertised in them, for fear that the person could be a stalker or even worse. Although people have to be careful when it comes to blind dates, those who place personal ads are basically people looking for some company.

Internet dating can help by doing screening of their members before they let them create a profile. This is the place to find online dating personals today. Go online and create a good one of yourself. Then start looking for ones that appeal to you.



Simple enough, right? Makes Total ManSense to me.

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How To Be An Alpha Male

Are You This Cool?

What is an Alpha Male?

Let me start out by saying that I kind of hate the term "alpha male" because so many attributes have been used to define it. Definitions run from arrogant, cocky womanizer to leader of a company or business.

In 48 years of gracing the face of this planet I have seen the good, the bad, the ugly, the Bullshit.

I'm shooting for the quintessential Man's Man, very simply just being a man. No false pretenses, just the basics. If you can be just a man, you're going to be fine. Maybe nobody has modeled this for you or you're still confused about being a man, I'm here to help.

Happiness

On the top of the list of being a man, an Alpha in my experience and view, is that he is happy on a regular basis.

He's knocking happiness out of the park at somewhere around 95%. Does he get discouraged? Sure, but he doesn't sit around and whine about it, he sucks it up, processes it, makes a decision and surges ahead like a tidal wave on crack. That's it, Leave it there, dwell on the unhappy business no longer. Man up, move on.

How does he get there? Practice. Practice accepting things as they are without getting bent out of shape at every turn. Practice. I can't say it enough. Make up your mind that you're life isn't ruined over trivial matters especially where something is out of your span of control. Adopt the attitude of survival, indifference or whatever feels like the right frame of mind. Do this repeatedly and you will become capable of reacting appropriately at every instance.

Masculinity

What is it to be male? Typical attributes would be strength, determination, courage, bravery, ever present, consistent, loyal and other historically known virtues ascribed to manhood. Think of a knight if that helps without going crazy on the chivalry, we'll address that in another post. You're a real man, act like it without the simpering neediness seen today in probably 85% of the male population.

Can You Pull This Shit Off? Sure You Can.

Confidence

Confidence is going boldly forward like the badass you should be. Not aggressive or cocky - confident. You got your shit together, you feel this way because you have a mission, goals, ambition. Women love this by the way. If you don't have some ambition or drive/ purpose then find it, Are you the next technology guru like Steve Jobs? A financier like Warren Buffet? An awesome front man in a band? Find it, think about it, get excited, just damn do it. Stick with it and breathe it in and out every day. Just having some focus on your drive will give you confidence. Do it.

Amplitude

He lives an abundant life, not one thing is missing: money, sex, excitement, mayhem - it's all there for the taking and he has already taken it. He feels it right to his marrow and he's still piling it on. How is he doing that? Attitude = Amplitude.  As you believe and act on it, so mote it be. The simplest and best place you can be at anytime is in the right freaking NOW. Here's an exercise for you: say you're in a snit over the latest shit test your date/ girlfriend, whatever has just pulled. You got your indignation on Kill and your look on Stun. Take a breath and ask yourself this: "At this moment in time, right now, this very second - what is lacking?". Nothing. You have bills, you have drama, what have you but right THEN, right NOW you will find nothing is lacking. Adopt this mindset right away. Use the exercise and the concept will grow in you. Stress Remediation Level: Expert.

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Freedom

Ah sweet freedom! Today's Alpha isn't constrained by traditional dating/ relationship rules, employment, marriages, politics or much of anything.

He operates within the law because not doing so would land him in trouble and therefore interfere with Freedom and Happiness.

Taking pleasure in making his own way on his own terms, he owns the day without fear of societal programming, stigma or bitch fest from the rest of the world.

Suggestions: if you are coming out of a relationship be it girlfriend, marriage, FB, whatever you have going on then you need to take a step back for a while and look inward at these 5 traits presented, Do you still have all 5 boiling over? Then move forward, my son, and conquer! If not, take that time and make some space for yourself, Find all of the missing pieces you had and put it back together before doing anything resembling a relationship.

Find your drive, get a job if you're unemployed, get out of your parents' house for Pete's sake - you aren't still living at home at 25 are you? If you are, get your ass in gear and get your own digs.

If you think about it, it's not so hard to be a man, it makes Total ManSense.

Peace

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