10 More Reasons Guys Break Up With Girlfriends

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Men, if you've had your heart broken you're really going to relate to this one, my second article on men breaking up with 

women. Your mileage may vary but you'll see these common factors as reported by men - reasons he dumped his girlfriend.

Ladies, this is a good time to listen if you've faced this problem.





1. She doesn't listen. 
When a man says something in the forest and no woman is around to hear him, is he still wrong? When a guy is talking, give him a chance to speak his mind without interruption. Listen to what he says as in actually hearing, processing and considering what he's saying. One common problem today is a man is made to feel that he doesn't know what he's talking about. Men may not always be right, but we do have opinions, and it frustrates us to no end when you act like our opinion doesn't matter. Why would he stay with you?

2. Friends weigh in too much. 
Cool, you have a galpal/confidant, maybe several, we get it. We have buddies we confide in as well. We can go with the girls' night out deal if it's not more common than your time spent with us. When you start letting your buddies (who constantly run guys off or have recurring relationship problems) get into the business of your relationship, that's asking for trouble. You expect that your man has a mind of his own when he's out with the guys, right? Same expectation for you. Just be careful what you decide to bring back from those conversations.

3. All in the family. 
We like when you are close to your family and we're not trying to monopolize the time you want to spend with them. This isn't a kidnapping. Here's the thing: you left the nest (you are old enough to do this, right?) so let's keep what goes between us just between us, ok? If you tell your mom and your sisters about every single argument and disagreement that we have, you're setting us up for dirty looks, skewed opinions and limited potential for our ability to enjoy visiting them with you.

4. We're not conjoined twins. 
There's no need for us to go every single place that you go, and we don't expect you to go everywhere with us. That's what makes our time together special. We each had our own likes and dislikes before we met. You did things alone or with your girls, and that's fine. Don't try to drag your man with you if it's going to be nothing but you and the girls talking. We don't want to sit and listen to talk about hair, nails, fashion, who's man is cheating on who, etc. Just shoot us first, if that's the case.

5. We aren't in prison or on parole.
Parolees have to give an account of where they're going, where they've been and with whom pretty much continually. Parole officers check to see if the parolees actually report to work. Relationships are supposed to have more trust than that. If a man feels that he's not being trusted, and he hasn't done anything deserving of the interrogation process (Bad Cop), then don't expect to have him around too much longer. We usually see this trait among the insanely jealous. Having said that, if there's going to be a delay for a good reason we'll let you know out of courtesy and to ease your concern and you should do the same.

6. Miss Independent.
Call it ego, male insecurity, whatever you like. We're in it for more than just sex. Seriously. Let us do some man stuff - was that misogynistic? If you keep telling a man (and showing him, too) that you can do everything on your own, then what do you need him for? Now we wonder if it's about money - what? Give us a hand up here with the ego, didn't we just tell you that you look gorgeous?

7. Cling Wrap.
We do want a grown woman who can handle her business, but still let us know that there's a place in her life for us that only we can fill. You're not a child (or do you act like one?), and we don't expect to treat you like one or take care of you like one. If you come to a guy for every single thing and can't seem to make up your mind or make simple decisions ... well, one day he make make up his mind and not come back. That's not a contradiction to #6. If it is for you, reread it until it makes sense.

8. If you can't say anything nice.
Sure, we mess up from time to time (sometimes in close time intervals). But how about some props now and then? Can't your man do anything right? We're not talking about being patronizing or treating him like a kindergarden kid keeping his colors inside the lines ("Way to go, Donnie!"). There's not a sentient person alive who can stand always being criticized, put down in front of others, etc. Shrinks call this "positive reinforcement." Men call it "give us a break." We want you to support us and be our cheerleader (outfit optional).

9. Back to the future. 
We've all made mistakes. The thing is to learn from them, not live in them. If your man made a mistake, and you've agreed to forgive him for it, then do that. Get over it, you don't have to reload that ammo for every conflict. Don't bring it up and keep beating him over the head with it.
get some original material. If you keep bringing up the past then be prepared to talk about your man
in the past tense, as in "ex."

10. His friends.
Don't throw them under the bus with your boyfriend drama. They may not be your friends, but don't dog them out. He knew them before he knew you. He knows how they are. If one (or more) of his friends are players, he knows this already. You don't have to remind him of that. If you insist on making negative comments about them, what you're really doing is showing your insecurity and, in a more subtle way, expressing a lack of trust. If he's with you and everything is going right then don't sweat his friends.

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Relationships 101 For the Men, Women and Manipulation

We're at a serious deficit from jump when it comes to our sexual obsession towards women. Usually men are better with the brute strength side of desperate measures. Picture a scene some 130,000 years ago when Neanderthal ruled the land. He came, he saw, he conquered for quite some time including dragging off whatever female he wanted, presumably by the hair of her head. Those days are over, fellas.

Now, thanks to following the Code of Hammurabi and the more recent Masonic code, we have laws to prevent such activities today. Except for some Middle Eastern countries, getting sex by threat of violence is pretty much non-existant and, personally, I'm down with that.

Civilized man has to get sex the hard way, and that puts him at the mercy of women's unpredictable moods and whims. If a woman doesn't want to put out, what are you gonna do? Rape her? Yeah, good luck getting away with that, Genius. What kind of asshat are you anyway?

A woman's last resort strength, her sexuality, is perfectly legal and works like a charm. Having said that, sexuality isn't even her best weapon. The award winner here is her manipulative little mind.

Women's wants and how the relationships fail:

Often, when it comes to choosing a mate, women aren't the most levelheaded. Shockingly, most of the men women end up marrying invariably fail to measure up to their White Knight childhood fantasies. The first few years of marriage are spent trying to hone their man's "rough edges," subtly, or not so much, trying to "domesticate" him until he acts less like himself, and more like the kind of guy they really wanted to marry (but didn't want to go out and actually find).

Toward that end women don't just use their body parts to get what they want. Rather they use their crafty minds, too. It being the case that men can't think straight around women they like, a crafty daughter will take advantage of that confusion, it's just kicking a guy when he's down.

The Manipulated Man

Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Phil and David DeAngelo got nothin on what I'm about to reveal here.

Women can often effortlessly and significantly change a man's behavior by using a few standard conditioning methods. These methods work on either sex equally well, but generally require the kind of persistence, patience and underhanded craftiness that few men can muster, or sustain. Yet it's precisely that kind of mental voodoo that women excel at.

First, there is Classical conditioning. This is where women get men to associate one behavior with another. For example, if a woman gives her man a blow job every time he buys her jewelry, he will begin to associate the two and, in no time, the mere thought of buying her jewelry finds him sportin' a woody. How Pavlovian of us, right guys? We ARE a simple lot.

The second kind of conditioning makes someone associate a particular behavior with a particular consequence. For example, when a man stays out all night with his boys, the woman, who wants to discourage this "terrible" behavior, withholds sex. Assuming he doesn't pack his bags and leave (like he should), the man soon learns that if he wants to get laid, he'd better come home on time. This is called operant conditioning, but is more commonly referred to as "pussy-whipping."

Another common form of manipulation is "passive-aggressive" behavior. In a nutshell, when a woman wants her man to do something, like buy her a new car, she doesn't come right out and tell him what she wants. (That would be effective, but wouldn't make him jump through any prove-you-love-me hoops.) Instead, she drops periodic hints under the assumption that, since her man says he loves her, he can pick up her clues and figure out what she wants without her asking. If he fails, she will, quite illogically, assume that he doesn't love her.

The main flaw in this approach is that it overestimates men. They are just not perceptive enough to notice most signals a woman uses short of slapping. Another woman might be able to decode her veiled suggestions, but men simply aren't equipped with the right emotional sensors to piece together her 100,000-piece all-blue-sky jigsaw puzzle. Again, we ARE a simple lot and NO, we really DON'T know what you're thinking!
Women could avoid a lot of disappointment if they'd just say, "Honey, I want you to buy me a car" in the first place. Sure, it's not as romantic as if the car came from the goodness of her man's heart, but it sure as hell beats walking, right?

The War Against Men Why Women are Winning

This natural obliviousness is man's one defense. Manipulation is useless against subjects too dumb (or, is it too crafty?) to do what they're supposed to do. So use this innate ignorance to your advantage: Ignore her. Ultimately, even if you bust your ass and actually succeed at fulfilling her every need, she'll do what anyone would do: She'll make up new ones and then more new ones.

Rarely is anything ever good enough for crafty, manipulative women, which is why most guys stop trying after awhile. You'll never succeed at making sure she "never wants for anything." Frankly, the wants of the average women are numerous. Too numerous, in fact, to discuss in a book without clear-cutting Costa Rican rain-forests for enough paper.

Stop trying. Not only does ignoring her negate any attempts to control you, it drives women freaking nuts as a bonus. And that's what tilts the Scales Of Love Injustice back to level.

More on this topic later, stay tuned.

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Dating 101 Why Women Dress Sexy

What's the deal with women and dressing up all hotified when they're out and about?

One of those age-old questions, let's investigate.

Let's think about it from the woman's perspective…

An attractive woman gets attention from men all the time, no matter how she looks or what she's wearing. Remember this, fellas.

She doesn't need to “accent” her beauty to get attention from men looking to attract beautiful women.

And the question becomes even more interesting when you consider that, most often, it's the MOST BEAUTIFUL women who go to the GREATEST lengths to enhance their beauty.

WHY?

Here a few of the reasons attractive women go to such great lengths to squeeze that “extra little bit” out of their beauty and what it means for you.

1. She Wants To Maximize Her Strengths To Attract The “Best” Men

Imagine that a beautiful woman is getting ready to go to a party.

There will be a hundred men at this party, and it follows that only a few of them will be the “best” ones.

Do you think this beautiful woman will settle for one of the average (or worse) ones running around, dropping lame lines “designed” to attract hot women?

Not a chance.

A woman wants to get the “best” man in the room. But the best man also has OPTIONS. Lots of women to choose from.

So she feels like she needs to “fix herself up” to have the BEST chance of getting THAT guy.

2. She Needs To Deal With Competition From Other Women. This is probably the top reason for putting on the hotness when going out.

Attractive women tend to be VERY, VERY competitive.

When a “hot” woman walks into a room, EVERYONE checks her out.

    It's competition, intimidation, and millions of years of evolution rolled up into one ugly, yet effective, package

Guys looks her up and down with a “let me get a good look because I'll be using her as a spank-it fantasy later” stare.

But the “best” men in the room, the ones who have REAL options, only glance quickly and make a mental note to talk to her later.

Meanwhile, the OTHER hot women in the room all look at her and give her…

THE BITCH LOOK.

Why?

Because another hot woman is instantly seen as COMPETITION. She doesn't want OTHER hot women competing with her for the “best guys.”

It's competition, intimidation, and millions of years of evolution rolled up into one ferocious package.

In order to MINIMIZE their competition, they FIX THEMSELVES UP and emphasize their good points TO THE MAX. Status and Alpha Female are the terms of the day. That's right, guys, she's not dressing up primarily for men, she's swanked out for the other women.

3. She Wants Attention And Approval

At the very core of human psychology and behavior are the concepts of ATTENTION and APPROVAL. Some evolutionary theorists think that the basic formula goes like this:

If you get more attention from others, then you and your offspring are more likely to survive and pass on your genes to future generations.

If others DON'T like you and give you attention, you are going to have a hard time finding a mate…

… and reproducing.

It just so happens that an attractive woman has a great indicator of whether or not “the group” likes and approves of her…

It's the amount of ATTENTION she gets. There may be something to the biological and evolutionary but personally I think this is about winning and ego.

If a woman is getting a lot of attention, it keeps her feeling “OK”. She knows she's accepted by the group, that she's going to stay healthy and have a good chance of mating with a “top male”.

Again, this is all about HER status as an Alpha Female. I can't overstate that dressing up is for the benefit of her own ego, so skip on the "it's her fault I came onto her, look how she was dressed" crapola.

What to do about this:

This is why, when YOU try to attract beautiful women, it's important you don't communicate to her that you are “overwhelmed by her beauty,” or chasing her, or too weak to express yourself well.

When you actively control the amount of attention you give her, you STAND OUT FROM THE CROWD.

Don't show her “approval” too quickly (maybe even show her some DISAPPROVAL)… and you've created a POWERFUL interest inside of her.

Why?

Because every guy that comes within ten feet of a hot woman can't stop looking at her. He makes it clear he would be willing to do anything for her.

So imagine what happens when she meets a guy that isn't like all these other guys AT ALL.

He acts like he's not impressed with her beauty. He even busts her balls a little. She can't tell if he likes her or not… and her systems are scrambled. She feels CHALLENGED.

Then, for some reason she can't explain, she starts to feel a GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION to him.

Women love a challenge, men.

Next, handing compliments: use them sparingly. If she asks how she looks you answer "fine" and leave it at that. That will probably raise her ire a bit and she'll begin asking what's wrong with this and that.
"Fine? What do you mean fine? Does my [insert area of her concerns in order of importance here] look okay?!" Stick with the "you look fine" deal unless she's getting obviously upset and then ratchet it up to "good". Don't kill her self-esteem, for Chrissake.

She doesn't want to hear "you're hot", "you're sexy" and all that crap. Keep it simple, honest and light. The schmucks out there are going to play THOSE kinds of games and payout lame, typical comments all night. Stand out from the herd.

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