10 More Reasons Guys Break Up With Girlfriends

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Men, if you've had your heart broken you're really going to relate to this one, my second article on men breaking up with 

women. Your mileage may vary but you'll see these common factors as reported by men - reasons he dumped his girlfriend.

Ladies, this is a good time to listen if you've faced this problem.





1. She doesn't listen. 
When a man says something in the forest and no woman is around to hear him, is he still wrong? When a guy is talking, give him a chance to speak his mind without interruption. Listen to what he says as in actually hearing, processing and considering what he's saying. One common problem today is a man is made to feel that he doesn't know what he's talking about. Men may not always be right, but we do have opinions, and it frustrates us to no end when you act like our opinion doesn't matter. Why would he stay with you?

2. Friends weigh in too much. 
Cool, you have a galpal/confidant, maybe several, we get it. We have buddies we confide in as well. We can go with the girls' night out deal if it's not more common than your time spent with us. When you start letting your buddies (who constantly run guys off or have recurring relationship problems) get into the business of your relationship, that's asking for trouble. You expect that your man has a mind of his own when he's out with the guys, right? Same expectation for you. Just be careful what you decide to bring back from those conversations.

3. All in the family. 
We like when you are close to your family and we're not trying to monopolize the time you want to spend with them. This isn't a kidnapping. Here's the thing: you left the nest (you are old enough to do this, right?) so let's keep what goes between us just between us, ok? If you tell your mom and your sisters about every single argument and disagreement that we have, you're setting us up for dirty looks, skewed opinions and limited potential for our ability to enjoy visiting them with you.

4. We're not conjoined twins. 
There's no need for us to go every single place that you go, and we don't expect you to go everywhere with us. That's what makes our time together special. We each had our own likes and dislikes before we met. You did things alone or with your girls, and that's fine. Don't try to drag your man with you if it's going to be nothing but you and the girls talking. We don't want to sit and listen to talk about hair, nails, fashion, who's man is cheating on who, etc. Just shoot us first, if that's the case.

5. We aren't in prison or on parole.
Parolees have to give an account of where they're going, where they've been and with whom pretty much continually. Parole officers check to see if the parolees actually report to work. Relationships are supposed to have more trust than that. If a man feels that he's not being trusted, and he hasn't done anything deserving of the interrogation process (Bad Cop), then don't expect to have him around too much longer. We usually see this trait among the insanely jealous. Having said that, if there's going to be a delay for a good reason we'll let you know out of courtesy and to ease your concern and you should do the same.

6. Miss Independent.
Call it ego, male insecurity, whatever you like. We're in it for more than just sex. Seriously. Let us do some man stuff - was that misogynistic? If you keep telling a man (and showing him, too) that you can do everything on your own, then what do you need him for? Now we wonder if it's about money - what? Give us a hand up here with the ego, didn't we just tell you that you look gorgeous?

7. Cling Wrap.
We do want a grown woman who can handle her business, but still let us know that there's a place in her life for us that only we can fill. You're not a child (or do you act like one?), and we don't expect to treat you like one or take care of you like one. If you come to a guy for every single thing and can't seem to make up your mind or make simple decisions ... well, one day he make make up his mind and not come back. That's not a contradiction to #6. If it is for you, reread it until it makes sense.

8. If you can't say anything nice.
Sure, we mess up from time to time (sometimes in close time intervals). But how about some props now and then? Can't your man do anything right? We're not talking about being patronizing or treating him like a kindergarden kid keeping his colors inside the lines ("Way to go, Donnie!"). There's not a sentient person alive who can stand always being criticized, put down in front of others, etc. Shrinks call this "positive reinforcement." Men call it "give us a break." We want you to support us and be our cheerleader (outfit optional).

9. Back to the future. 
We've all made mistakes. The thing is to learn from them, not live in them. If your man made a mistake, and you've agreed to forgive him for it, then do that. Get over it, you don't have to reload that ammo for every conflict. Don't bring it up and keep beating him over the head with it.
get some original material. If you keep bringing up the past then be prepared to talk about your man
in the past tense, as in "ex."

10. His friends.
Don't throw them under the bus with your boyfriend drama. They may not be your friends, but don't dog them out. He knew them before he knew you. He knows how they are. If one (or more) of his friends are players, he knows this already. You don't have to remind him of that. If you insist on making negative comments about them, what you're really doing is showing your insecurity and, in a more subtle way, expressing a lack of trust. If he's with you and everything is going right then don't sweat his friends.