10 More Reasons Guys Break Up With Girlfriends

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Men, if you've had your heart broken you're really going to relate to this one, my second article on men breaking up with 

women. Your mileage may vary but you'll see these common factors as reported by men - reasons he dumped his girlfriend.

Ladies, this is a good time to listen if you've faced this problem.





1. She doesn't listen. 
When a man says something in the forest and no woman is around to hear him, is he still wrong? When a guy is talking, give him a chance to speak his mind without interruption. Listen to what he says as in actually hearing, processing and considering what he's saying. One common problem today is a man is made to feel that he doesn't know what he's talking about. Men may not always be right, but we do have opinions, and it frustrates us to no end when you act like our opinion doesn't matter. Why would he stay with you?

2. Friends weigh in too much. 
Cool, you have a galpal/confidant, maybe several, we get it. We have buddies we confide in as well. We can go with the girls' night out deal if it's not more common than your time spent with us. When you start letting your buddies (who constantly run guys off or have recurring relationship problems) get into the business of your relationship, that's asking for trouble. You expect that your man has a mind of his own when he's out with the guys, right? Same expectation for you. Just be careful what you decide to bring back from those conversations.

3. All in the family. 
We like when you are close to your family and we're not trying to monopolize the time you want to spend with them. This isn't a kidnapping. Here's the thing: you left the nest (you are old enough to do this, right?) so let's keep what goes between us just between us, ok? If you tell your mom and your sisters about every single argument and disagreement that we have, you're setting us up for dirty looks, skewed opinions and limited potential for our ability to enjoy visiting them with you.

4. We're not conjoined twins. 
There's no need for us to go every single place that you go, and we don't expect you to go everywhere with us. That's what makes our time together special. We each had our own likes and dislikes before we met. You did things alone or with your girls, and that's fine. Don't try to drag your man with you if it's going to be nothing but you and the girls talking. We don't want to sit and listen to talk about hair, nails, fashion, who's man is cheating on who, etc. Just shoot us first, if that's the case.

5. We aren't in prison or on parole.
Parolees have to give an account of where they're going, where they've been and with whom pretty much continually. Parole officers check to see if the parolees actually report to work. Relationships are supposed to have more trust than that. If a man feels that he's not being trusted, and he hasn't done anything deserving of the interrogation process (Bad Cop), then don't expect to have him around too much longer. We usually see this trait among the insanely jealous. Having said that, if there's going to be a delay for a good reason we'll let you know out of courtesy and to ease your concern and you should do the same.

6. Miss Independent.
Call it ego, male insecurity, whatever you like. We're in it for more than just sex. Seriously. Let us do some man stuff - was that misogynistic? If you keep telling a man (and showing him, too) that you can do everything on your own, then what do you need him for? Now we wonder if it's about money - what? Give us a hand up here with the ego, didn't we just tell you that you look gorgeous?

7. Cling Wrap.
We do want a grown woman who can handle her business, but still let us know that there's a place in her life for us that only we can fill. You're not a child (or do you act like one?), and we don't expect to treat you like one or take care of you like one. If you come to a guy for every single thing and can't seem to make up your mind or make simple decisions ... well, one day he make make up his mind and not come back. That's not a contradiction to #6. If it is for you, reread it until it makes sense.

8. If you can't say anything nice.
Sure, we mess up from time to time (sometimes in close time intervals). But how about some props now and then? Can't your man do anything right? We're not talking about being patronizing or treating him like a kindergarden kid keeping his colors inside the lines ("Way to go, Donnie!"). There's not a sentient person alive who can stand always being criticized, put down in front of others, etc. Shrinks call this "positive reinforcement." Men call it "give us a break." We want you to support us and be our cheerleader (outfit optional).

9. Back to the future. 
We've all made mistakes. The thing is to learn from them, not live in them. If your man made a mistake, and you've agreed to forgive him for it, then do that. Get over it, you don't have to reload that ammo for every conflict. Don't bring it up and keep beating him over the head with it.
get some original material. If you keep bringing up the past then be prepared to talk about your man
in the past tense, as in "ex."

10. His friends.
Don't throw them under the bus with your boyfriend drama. They may not be your friends, but don't dog them out. He knew them before he knew you. He knows how they are. If one (or more) of his friends are players, he knows this already. You don't have to remind him of that. If you insist on making negative comments about them, what you're really doing is showing your insecurity and, in a more subtle way, expressing a lack of trust. If he's with you and everything is going right then don't sweat his friends.

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Misogyny and Misandry Part I Misogyny

Misogyny Sucks

Part 1 of 2. Ok folks, let's look at these problems at a very simple level. There's a war being waged out there between the sexes.

Misongyny, at its base level is a very narrow view of, ingrained in every decision and butthurt driven dislike and sometimes outright hatred of women.

The current movement seems to be going in two main directions for men disenfranchised with feminism (they will usually say RADICAL feminism) and Western women in general.

First, there's MGTOW - Men Going their Own Way. These gentlemen typically, but not always, choose to disavow dating and any unnecessary contact with women - their emotions and sometimes bank accounts having been burned to rubbish by one or several bad choices in a partner. I would place myself almost there were it not for a handful of ladies I feel pretty certain wouldn't act with malice regarding their male partner (yes, I made some bad choices). The MGTOW movement in concert with other Men's Rights Activists (MRAs) are experiencing a huge surge in popularity. What this means for Western Society is a sharp decline in marriage rates, having children, monogamy and fidelity (read family and kids). From a population standpoint, this isn't a good thing. For the man scorned, it's a win and freedom from drama, responsibility and a shield for his emotional state. I'm not advocating marriage, mind you, not at all. Do a YouTube search for MGTOW to see the current thought.

Most MGTOW men will point out the double standards they feel are placed on them - it's okay for women to belittle men, make them look like idiots and toss them aside when they aren't getting what they want. I agree and I get it. Men are expected to be in touch with their feminine side but tolerate the rough, arrogant snipes from women. Been there, got the t-shirt and even that was the wrong size.

The second branch deIdiot running rampant is PUA (pick up artist) and "game". The idea behind game being maximize the potential for sexual encounters by building a harem and building it with manly artistry. It's all about the guys hardcore with this crowd and don't dare contradict them lest they gang up on you like a zebra corpse in front of hyenas. I have that t-shirt too, also the wrong size.

Jeans and t-shirt kind of guy

A bevy of assorted pickup tactics, lines, rules and opinion rule the day and they have their Godfathers - Roosh V (Google that name long with PUA and game) is one. One of the biggest sites supporting this agenda is ReturnOfKings.com, They have some decent life hacks and occasionally decent advice but under nearly EVERY article and thread runs the dark, oily undercurrent of the He Man's Woman Hater Club.

Why? Well, for the reasons I delineated for MGTOW and because they aren't getting their way. It's that simple. I have to agree with some of their thoughts: don't let a woman run over top of you, don't let her change you, dictate your hair style, choose your friends, get rid of your habits - but those things are good advice for any relationship, it's not specific to only women. This is just good advice in general when dealing with people. No, I can't align myself here either.

What's the solution? For those of you old enough to understand the Golden Rule it's easy: treat others the way you want to be treated. Always. If someone doesn't give you that respect regularly - walk. The strongest position you can be in is the same as in business - the ability to walk away. I'm not saying break up with your woman or man if they get a little out of range but if you get a steady diet of that crap, it's time to go. Save yourself.

Part 2 soon but it's going to end the same way,

Be excellent to each other.

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Female Privilege - California Planet Fitness Told Woman To Cover Up Her Toned Body!

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From the article: "Tiffany Austin (pictured) claims to have felt much “gymtimidation” at a Planet Fitness in Richmond, Calif., after she was allegedly ordered by the gym’s staff to cover up her toned body because it was intimidating to other patrons, according to HLN.

The Los Angeles vocalist and lyricist said she was pacing herself on a treadmill during her first visit to the gym on Monday when she was suddenly approached by the gym’s employees who informed her about complaints from other members over her ‘toned physique.’  Austin, who was wearing pink capri pants and a matching midriff, told HLN, “The first worker said, ‘You’re intimidating people with your toned body, your toned physique.’ If I’m intimidating someone I thought I had to be harassing them or something. I’m like, wow, just being who I am is an infraction of some sort?”

The employee then allegedly offered Austin a shirt, which she accepted, so that she could cover up her body.

The confrontation did not stop at the shirt exchange. “In rapid succession, the second one [staffer] came after I had already agreed to put on the shirt,” she said. “Then I said, you know what, give me my money back.”

The fledgling Matriarchy cried foul over the issue but guess what? Austin’s toned body was not the issue that prompted the disagreement. It was her outfit, which went against the gym’s dress code policy. 

"'In this particular instance, club staff received complaints from several members about Ms. Austin’s attire,' McCall Gosselin, spokeswoman for Planet Fitness, told HLN in an e-mail Wednesday. "As a result, a staff member informed her of the dress code policy and also offered to provide her with a free T-shirt to complete her workout. Planet Fitness’ dress code policy is based solely on attire and not physique, as members of all shapes and sizes are welcome in our clubs.”

Austin, on the other hand, feels she was appropriately dressed for the “judgement-free zone” gym, attired in clothing that was not very revealing except for the fact that her midriff was exposed."

Here is that common thought amongst the entitled (female privilege) - "I see your policy but I think my opinion supercedes your policy". To be fair, there should be an inquiry on what "intimidated" means to the other gym members who contacted the staff member. Regardless of that, it's a policy. Your opinion is trumped in that place.

Fortunately, Austin was offered membership elsewhere to bare her midriff. Better check those hidden equipment, towel laundering and start up fees - they're probably policy.

Knowing what you're up against at the gym or elsewhere - makes Total ManSense to me.

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Bachelor Nation: 70% of Men Aged 20-34 Are Not Married | CNS News

Bachelor Nation: 70% of Men Aged 20-34 Are Not Married | CNS News

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This is a bit lackluster for engaging video but the vlog itself is quite good.


Go ahead and read the article first, listen to the video and follow my comments below.


For me, this is a great example of shaming via a bid to engage young men to dive into the government sponsored contract known as marriage.


In an oped for the Washington Times, Janice Shaw Crouse writes “Far too many young men have failed to make a normal progression into adult roles of responsibility and self-sufficiency, roles generally associated with marriage and fatherhood”. The measure of an adult man is apparently his willingness to buy into the marriage and fatherhood tradition.


"The high percentage of bachelors means bleak prospects for millions of young women who dream about a wedding day that may never come. “It’s very, very depressing,” Crouse told CNSNews.com. 'They’re not understanding how important it is for the culture, for society, for the strength of the nation to have strong families.'", the article says. This story is tailor made for women and an attempt at a guilt trip for the men. 


What's wrong with these guys anyway? Who wouldn't want to engage in a contract that fails by a factor of over half and 70% of those contracts broken by the woman in the marriage? Sounds like a good gamble, doesn't it?


The men in this age bracket, as well as older men, have grown up with divorce. They've seen the devastation, depression, disillusionment and demise of matrimony.


“And that means the girls have to live by the guys’ demands. And that means less romance. They don’t date. The girls, I have talked to numerous young women, lament the fact that they don’t have the opportunity to dress up and go out for an event.” - wow, poor darlings, they can't play princess and dress up because the number of female college students is now at 60% creating an ample supply but not as much demand.


Here's the crux of the issue: "But men are not entirely to blame for the steep decline in marriage, Crouse pointed out. 'A lot of women fear marriage. While feminism is a spent force, the ultimate consequences of that philosophy is a whole generation of women who don’t want any man to tell them what to do, and don’t really understand the give and take that is necessary for a marriage relationship.'". 


Make no mistake, I am all for equality across the spectrum but these men have grown up in a society where it's funny to make men look like idiots in TV shows, commercials and other media not to mention in society. Overwhelmingly men are portrayed as hapless buffoons while the women shake their heads, "you silly man, let me show you how it's done". 


You think there isn't a problem with the women on talk shows having a big laugh over the woman that cut her husbands member off and running it through the garbage disposal? Let a man cut off a woman's privy parts and tell me how funny that is.


It's not going to work and it's going to get worse. Take a look at Japan's crisis with marriage, sex and a declining population.


More and more men are choosing the MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) lifestyle rather than the bondage of marriage.


Why should these guys get married? Sounds like Total ManSense to me.

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Cultivate Compassion

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice 

compassion.” - Dalai Lama

If you're looking for some long-term happiness in your life, you might consider giving the cultivation of compassion a try. Short-term happiness often comes from pleasures like sex, gambling, video games and so on and have a very limited effect. You want something more permanent and you can achieve that lasting happiness by simply being compassionate.

What is compassion?

A good definition is found on Wikipedia: compassion is an emotion that is a sense of shared suffering, most often combined with a desire to alleviate or reduce the suffering of another; to show special kindness to those who suffer. Compassion essentially arises through empathy, and is often characterized through actions, wherein a person acting with compassion will seek to aid those they feel compassionate for.

Compassionate acts are generally considered those which take into account the suffering of others and attempt to alleviate that suffering as if it were one’s own. In this sense, the various forms of the Golden Rule are clearly based on the concept of compassion.

Compassion differs from other forms of helpful or humane behavior in that its focus is primarily on the alleviation of suffering.

So what's in it for me?

Good question, and the answer is science. Studies suggest that there are a number of benefits tied to the practice of compassion. People who regularly cultivate compassion produce 100 percent more DHEA, an anti-aging hormone, and 23 percent less cortisol, the so called stress hormone.

Emotionally and spiritually, being compassionate helps you to be more happy and obviously helps others around you to be happier. Knowing that we all have the desire for happiness, it's evident that compassion may be the best path for achieving that happiness.

Making compassion your priority.

Like most activities, cultivating compassion is a commitment and requires repetition. I'm going to suggest that you try to cultivate some compassion daily.

Consider or meditate on being more compassionate upon arising from sleep, in your contact with others, and reflect on it before retiring for the day. Practice is perfect and it soon becomes a part of your routine and your life. The Dalai Lama has said, “This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.”

Start your day with the right mindset

When you arise for the day, start with a ritual. The Dalai Lama suggests this train of thought: “Today I am fortunate to have woken up, I am alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others, to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings, I am going to have kind thoughts 

towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others, I am going to benefit others as much as I can.” When you're feeling comfortable with this move on to the next segment.

The practice

The best way to cultivate compassion is to develop empathy for your fellow human beings. Most of us believe that we have empathy and, in fact, just about everyone does have some level of empathy. The reality is this though: most of us are self centered, including me. As a result we lose that ability to show empathy gradually over time. Imagine that someone you love is suffering. Something terrible has happened to him or her. Try to imagine the pain they are going through. Get a good visual with all of the detail you can muster. In a couple of weeks, you should try moving on to imagining the suffering of others you know, not just those who are close to you.

We have a tendency to find and sometimes point out the differences between ourselves and others. As a change of mindset look for what you have in common. At the root of it all, we are all human beings. We need food, shelter and love. We desire attention, recognition, affection, a sense of belonging, and, above all, happiness. Consider what you have in common with every other human being and try to ignore the differences. There's a great set of exercises found in an article from Ode Magazine.  Try this five-step exercise when you meet friends and strangers. Do it discreetly and try to do all the steps with the same person. With your attention geared to the other person, tell yourself: 

Step 1: “Just like me, this person is seeking happiness in his/her life.”

Step 2: “Just like me, this person is trying to avoid suffering in his/her life.”

Step 3: “Just like me, this person has known sadness, loneliness and despair.”

Step 4: “Just like me, this person is seeking to fill his/her needs.”

Step 5: “Just like me, this person is learning about life.”

Learning to wear the other person's shoes especially if they don't have any

If you can empathize with another person and understand his/her humanity and suffering, you will logically feel motivated to help that person and relieve their suffering. This is the very definition of compassion. Try this exercise: Imagine the suffering of a human being you’ve met recently. Now imagine that you are the one going through that suffering. Reflect on how much you 

would like that suffering to end. Reflect on how happy you would be if another human being desired your suffering to end and acted upon it. Open your heart to that human being and if you feel even a little that you’d want their suffering to end, reflect on that feeling. That’s the feeling that you want to develop. With constant practice, that feeling can be grown and nurtured.

Acts of kindness

At this stage of your compassion practice, it's time to move on to the next exercise, expanding your ability to be compassionate. Imagine again the suffering of someone you know or met recently. Imagine again that you are that person, and are going through that suffering. Now imagine that another human being would like your suffering to end — perhaps your mother or 

another loved one. What would you like for that person to do to end your suffering? Now reverse roles: you are the person who desires for the other person’s suffering to end. Imagine that you do something to help ease the suffering, or end it completely. Once you get good at this stage, 

practice doing something small each day to help end the suffering of others, even in a tiny way. 

Even a smile, or a kind word, or doing an errand or chore, or just talking about a problem with another person. Practice doing something kind to help ease the suffering of others. When you are good at this, discipline yourself to make it a daily practice, and eventually a throughout-the-day practice.

Compassion for the bully

The final phase in your practice is to expand it beyond those we love and meet, those who mistreat us. When you encounter someone who mistreats you, learn to withdraw rather than acting in anger. When you are more detached from the event, reflect on that person who mistreated you. 

Try to imagine the background of that person. Try to imagine what that person was taught as a child. Imagine the day or week that person was going through, and what kind of bad things may have happened to that person. Imagine the mood and state of mind that person was in — the suffering that person must have been going through to mistreat you that way. Understand that their action was not about you, but about what they were going through. Reflect further about the suffering of that poor person, and see if you can imagine trying to stop the suffering of that person. Consider that if you mistreated someone, and they acted with kindness and compassion toward you, whether that would make you less likely to mistreat that person the next 

time and more likely to be kind to that person. Once you have mastered this practice of reflection, try acting with compassion and understanding the next time a person treats you poorly. Do it in small doses until you are proficient. Practice is perfect.

Before retiring for the day

I highly recommend that you take a few minutes before you go to bed to reflect upon your day. Think about the people you met and talked to, and how you treated each other. Think about your goal that you stated upon awakening, to act with compassion towards others. How well did you do? 

What could you do better? What did you learn from your experiences today? Discipline yourself to try at least one of the above practices and exercises.

Conclusion

Cultivating compassion can be done anywhere, any time. Whether you are at work, home, on the road, while traveling, while at a store, at the home of a friend or family member. Bracketing your day with a morning and evening routine, you can frame your day properly in an attitude of empathy, thanksgiving and compassion, furthering your personal growth. With practice, you can begin to do it throughout the day, and throughout your lifetime.

This, above all, with bring happiness to your life and to those around you.

“My message is the practice of compassion, love and kindness. These things are very useful in our daily life, and also for the whole of human society these practices can be very important.” 

- Dalai Lama

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Turning off the Noise Inside Your Head

That infernal, internal tape deck telling you all of the bad news for today, next week, ten years from now.
Sometimes it's something small like you forgot to feed the fish this morning but it's going to keep running in your head reminding you what a moron you are and how dire the consequences are going to be. Other times it may be an anxiety attack detonator, prodding you constantly so you know that doom and death are very near.

Without getting into much detail, I'm going to offer one basic relaxation technique followed by the parry to the internal dialogue. Becoming involved in the right now and simply being is the key to finding peace.

Relaxing
First, as with all relaxation techniques, breath deeply in through the nose as you count (1-2-3-4), hold that breath (1-2-3-4), breathe out through your mouth(1-2-3-4). Repeat as many times as you can comfortably but I suggest six as a minimum. You'll notice the fog lifting and your heart rate slowing, that's what we're going for.
In future sessions practice try to increase your count.
This one is best performed lying down but can be used from any position. Assuming you're in an environment where you can grab a few minutes of down time, scrunch up your whole face as much as possible, hold that scrunch for a couple beats and relax your face. Move down to your neck and repeat the same tension and release method. Continue down to the shoulders, upper back (bring your shoulder blades back tight), arms and so on down the body all the way to your toes.

Observing
Without making any judgements whatsoever or internally saying "I'm not making any judgements", simply observe your thoughts for a few moments. This is perhaps the most difficult to learn since it involves some dissassociation between your "self" (who you actually are) and your ego, the part of your mind trying to run the show. Stick with it without frustration. Let some thoughts pass and ask yourself "I wonder what my next thought will be?". Doing this you
are breaking into that stream of chatter and pressing the pause button. This is stage one of becoming an observer to the tape deck rather than the participant in the tape deck's incessant lecture.

You may practice this several times before you get what your looking for, which is silence in your head however brief that may be. Three seconds, one second, thirty? Doesn't matter and skip the judgemental ego who is trying to tell you that you aren't making any progress.

Success
When you find that moment or two of silence and clarity you can rest assured you are well on your way to peace using this technique.

Quick Version
See the breathing instructions above, they are required for the quick version as well. This works while driving, in the office, at home - wherever. It's a shorter version and starts with the face scrunch, followed by slowly rolling your head in big lazy circles first one way then the other. Follow this with squeezing the shoulder blades in tight, holding and releasing. This forces your body to momentarily relax and you can get to the observation part of the technique. As an alternative to the "I wonder what my next thought will be" submit this to your inner tape deck: try to think about both the Empire State Building while counting backwards from ninety nine.

Follow Up
Like all things you want to excel in, this requires practice to get started on that road less traveled. Once you've achieved that first moment of simply being right here, right now, subsequent journeys will give more and more time and better results sooner.

Questions
Is this entering an altered state? You could say that in the sense you have recovered control of your mind for a bit, that it is altered from the normal state of internal chatter but in a broader sense, no. You're not drifting off to sleep, under hypnosis and so on. If anything, you will find you are more aware and able to focus on your tasks at hand.

Suggested Reading
The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle    
Great read, lots of insight, I don't agree with everything he says yet there is certainly something for everyone who reads it

The Tibetan Book of the Dead        
Not what you think it is

Hagakure: The Book of the Samurai - Yamamoto Tsunetomo    
Fantastic existential read on samurais and their "seconds", full of wisdom and stories

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Triumph in the Face of Adversity

Right now many people are facing tough times.  Life as we once knew it has changed and we may find ourselves confronting situations we have never dealt with before.

 While we might not be able to control things that are occurring in the world, we can control how we react to what is happening.  Specifically, we can control how we use our minds and thoughts to get through difficult circumstances.  The following are simple steps that will not only help you handle any challenges, but will allow you to move through them to achieve success.

             Remember this too shall pass – Sometimes when we are faced with tough times we feel as if they will never end.  We can’t see ‘the light at the end of the tunnel’ to that time when our problems are resolved.  It seems as if we will always have to deal with the difficulty.  This can be a very negative attitude to adopt because it leads to a sense of hopelessness – why bother trying to change things because it won’t make a difference anyway.  Now is the time to remember that, as with most things in life, this too shall pass.  You will find another job, business will pick up, the pain and grief will subside.  As you realize that this challenging time will be replaced by a brighter tomorrow, you will find it easier to take the necessary steps to resolve your situation.

             Consider past successes – Often when we are dealing with a difficult situation we develop amnesia about our past.  Unless you are one of a privileged few, you have successfully overcome prior challenges in your life.  Think about past events when you’ve been tougher than your problems.  It will help you realize that deep within, you have the strength and fortitude to move beyond this demanding time.

             Determine your personal success strategy – As you recall those times when you’ve triumphed over trouble, consider what strategies you used to accomplish it.  Each of us has many successful strategies that we’ve used in our past.  However, we often forget to pull out those strategies during those times that we can most benefit from them.  Determine what worked for you before and apply those successful ideas now.  You will find it much easier to handle any adversity you may be facing.

             Handle day-to-day challenges, but envision your goal – When we go through difficult times it is easy to get bogged down in the minutiae of the situation and forget where we are headed.  Take time out to envision what life will be like when the situation has reached a successful outcome.  Handle the day-to-day details such as making follow-up phone calls, finding new ways to market yourself or your business, solving daily problems, but always remind yourself of how things will look and feel when you are triumphant.  This will provide you with the motivation to continue taking action and it will also help you maintain a positive attitude.

             Find a support system – When we are struggling with major challenges it is very difficult to consistently stay upbeat.  We don’t get the position, we lose the sale, the expenses continue to pile up as the money gives out.  This is the time when we need others to help us remain focused and optimistic.  Call a confidante who can see the bright side when you can’t.  Talk to a trusted friend who will help you leave your ‘pity party’ and take action once again.  There are times when even the strongest and most positive of us need others to help us navigate through the trials of trouble.

             Focus on what is right in your life – When we are confronted by problems it is very easy to let them control our perspective on life.  We spend much time and energy focusing on what is wrong and very little time thinking about what is right.  On a daily basis, come up with a list of things that are good in your life, things for which you can be grateful even as you travel this tough road.  It will help you realize that even though the world may seem to be falling apart around you, you still have many positives in your life.

 Follow these steps whenever you find yourself facing life’s bumps, detours, or valleys.  They will not only help make the journey easier, but they will lead the way to your ultimate triumph.

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